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An open letter to all my friends who have now become strangers

Hey you. Yes, you.

It’s been a long time since we’ve seen each other and even talked to each other. Do you remember before, that moment I see you, my eyes would immediately light up and I’d dissolve into a pool of mush running with a hug, a tease, and a big smile running to greet you. Isn’t it strange that, now, if ever I do get to see you, I would not even know how to react! Seems to me that old warmth disappeared slowly, but was gone in an instant. Now that Iook back, I don’t even know how we got here.

One thing’s for sure, we used to be really close friends. Everything that’s painful and painfully embarrassing, I’d tell you without pause or filters. I would act like a damn child and expected you to treat and spoil me like one. We’d spend countless days literally just hanging out — no agendas, no budgets, no curfews.

It pains me to think I can’t even see you now without emotionally preparing for what my response would be, anticipating a truly awkward exchange. Used to be, you’d walk into my house, drop your bags, and feel at home as if you paid my rent. Now, I’m pretty sure you don’t even know where I live, or who I live with, or what I look like (P.S. I was blonde in 2016, and I now have chest tattoo! It’s pretty sick).

You’ve probably heard about family before. Maybe I’ve given you a repeated run down or blow-by-blow account on our shitty issues. But right now I’m sure you haven’t heard anything related to their health, their marriage, and their new jobs (my brother is now a lawyer!). I used to tell you all my hurts about them. You don’t even know what my issues are these days, especially those related to boyfriends, grad school, work, political views, religious convictions, and money. I have rapidly changed so much during the time we drifted apart that I think you’ll be eyebrows-raised, jaws-dropped surprised about my revelations.

Oh, and you probably don’t know much about my partner. Maybe you’ve heard his name or have met him once or twice. But I’m sure you have zero idea of how we are since we pretty much made new friends together. Maybe you won’t believe me — but we are doing very, very (admittedly, unexpectedly) well. We’re together for almost four years now, can you believe?! He’s immensely patient with me and we rarely even fight these days. Maybe when you see us together, you’ll be surprised at how I have visibly changed around him — starting with the fact that I can now be physically affectionate when before I could not even hug my girlfriends.

I’m sure you’ve known me as fiercely independent. You’ve once told me how you admired how I didn’t need fear being alone in the crowd and boasted of the fact that I won’t have a serious relationship ’til I’m 27. Lookie here, I’m 25 now and think marriage won’t be so bad (!!!). You’ve praised me once or twice for going on trips with strangers and inviting myself to events even if I knew nobody. Tell you what — I’m still the same person, but I have grown. Having a partner was a bliss, knowing I can enjoy another person’s company I liked as much as I liked (and am very content) with my own.

Sometimes, I think of you and wonder how you are. I just assume that you’re happy and that maybe you’re missing my companion once in a while, as much as I do, too. But I won’t blame you for not reaching out during those times when you missed me so much, you were pushed to stalking and almost this close to chat me up. I haven’t reached out, too, I know. But maybe if one of us did, the other wouldn’t know how to even respond. Maybe I won’t respond at all, because it just feels like a stranger suddenly blurts out, “I miss you!” to me on the streets. How the hell would you react to that?

I do miss the times we were at my place and we would literally do nothing but lounge around, maybe sleep at a certain point, play, just stare into space, and talk about one thing or another. Be it bright ideas, gossip, or emotional purges. I don’t know about you, but I’ve grown more exclusive these days. I don’t usually enjoy staying overnight anymore, and if I did, I’d leave early in the morning. I don’t like staying out too late anymore, and my energy is so limited and required the power of coffee or beer. Perhaps the fact that I drink once a week comes as a surprise, too.

You are one of the lucky ones to see that side of me. I don’t often show it these days, with a higher position at work, with graduate school fatigue, with new responsibilities undertaken, I don’t think I can let my guard down as much as I did during our time together.

Which is why I think no matter how much time pass or how far we drift apart, I will always miss you. Because I’ve been so vulnerable with you, and maybe I just miss being vulnerable with someone that much, in general. It’s much harder to be emotionally vulnerable now, with people so geographically and hierarchically distant. I can no longer duplicate the friendship we had when we were both young, free from responsibilities (and bills), and so in tune with each other.

I’m sure you’re also going through some very adult things yourself. Maybe you’ve also been dating that person long and you’re either married or getting married soon. Or maybe you’ve broken up with that guy you’ve been with for years and years and used to gush to me about. Maybe you’ve gone your own way, too, leaving to find greener pastures at work, in your communities, maybe even this country. I’m sure your struggles are different from what we’ve had before — when we merely bother about our crushes, family issues, our first jobs, our frustrations over a lack of direction. Things are more higher-level serious now, don’t you think?

Sometimes, I wish I was there with you to go through those hardships in life with. I’m more than happy learning about your new (perhaps your nth) job, relationship, hairstyle, weight (haha), and hobbies. Know that indifferent as I am on a daily basis, a part of me still cheers for you, applauds you, wipes your tears, and hugs you for every triumph you face in life even though I’m not there. I want you to succeed even without you knowing it — maybe even without me knowing it!

In days such as these, I hope that someday we would rekindle the friendship that we have. Although, I think we can no longer go back to being the same “friends” we used to be anymore. We’ve had a paradigm shift of values, perspectives, desires, and personas by now. It’s 2018.

When we do meet again, we will meet again as new strangers. I’m fancying re-introducing myself to you and, hoping against hope, still find a certain bond with each other despite the new humans we have become. Until then, I’ll remain in your Facebook friend list, a name in your Messenger chat box, or your silent Instagram follower — just a name that you haven’t heard spoken for a very long time, but somehow brings back a lot of memories. Yes, even Facebook ones.

We may not be on speaking terms these days, and maybe we would be awkward again the next time we see each other. But know that silently, somehow… I’m rooting for you.


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Why I disagree with Mindanao Martial Law

These days, it seems you cannot raise your opinions without being brandished as being pro- or anti-government. So to write this article, I have to make a few disclaimers.

First is that I am in no way allied to any Filipino political party. But if you had to ask, I voted for Duterte and Leni last elections. Since then, I have hinged myself to a far corner of Filipino politics, bordering on apathetic, though mostly apolitical. I have never written anything remotely political on my Facebook wall by choice since I firmly believe that individualized and non-publicized actions do the most work out of positive change. Plus, the toxicity level is running high at the time…

Second is that my opinions are unfortunately coming from someone miles away from the epicenter that is Mindanao. Alas, I am born and raised in Luzon and have never stepped foot in the Southernmost Philippine island. So if there are contexts I am unable to digest or understand, it is largely due to this fact.

With those out of the picture, I daresay that I am against Martial Law in Mindanao.

This is not because, unlike how others might have stereotyped millennials or UP graduates, I am against Martial Law absolutely. I believe there are situations that warrant such declarations if it proved to be strategic for the greater good of the country. But I believe this is not a situation to declare Martial Law.

Why? Publicized declarations usually mean nothing — especially if they are made when emotions are high. It usually is overpromising and under-delivering. By itself, it does not create results.

I believe that the sudden declaration of Martial Law was a knee-jerk reaction to create an illusion that everything is or will be under control thru brute force. Perhaps it is the benevolent intention of reassuring Filipinos that the President himself will be making sure that the terrorists will be terminated. If that was the case, I applaud Duterte, but I still disagree with the choice.

We should not forget that the terrorist group has not left Marawi City yet. The city is under siege, and many innocent lives are still at the mercy of the Maute Group. The timing of declaring Martial Law may not be strategic. It may inspire fear and terror in the hearts of the terrorists, which may feel good for us, but rationally, they may also respond in ways of a wild animal when cornered — unpredictable and massively destructive. Not surprisingly, the Maute Group threatened to kill hostages if not granted safe passage out of Marawi City.

An illustration is this: When you receive a phone call that a thief has your mother and is pointing a gun at her head at the moment, you restrain yourself from hurling threats at the predator. It feels good to tell the thief that you have called the police and they are coming to rescue your mother, but the reality is that, if you care about your mother, you know you do not have the advantage in the situation.

The more rational approach is to negotiate with the predator. Beg if you must! But do the secret work of calling the police or whatever full force you can muster to take him down.

The key takeaway I have here in expressing my opinion is this: Going public is not the best response to situations. The President does have a role in reassuring his people that everything will be all right. But this should not be made at the expense of the vulnerable hostages whose lives are more at risk than ever since the declaration.

We must keep in mind that sometimes the best responses in the game of war is not a verbal threat, but a surprise attack. One that will create an illusion of winning on the side of the enemy, but will later catch them off guard and defeated. Delaying response does not feel good — but it can save lives.

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CSR: To outsource or not to outsource

This is a weekly academic blog for my MBA class Lasallian Business Leadership, Ethics, and Corporate Social Responsibility.


One of my burning questions in CSR class is this: Should CSR be outsourced or performed externally?

CSR is not just an activity to be performed for society. Sometimes it could be as simple as paying employees well, providing benefits allowing work-life integration, and making sure they are heard and valued.

Additionally, some companies are in better position than most NGOs to conduct activities that benefit society. An example of this is my own company which has the technical expertise, network, resources, and manpower to create programs that will have a broader and deeper reach. A lot of NGOs may create social programs within our industry, but they may be significantly less knowledgeable, less connected, and less equipped to fulfill the mission.

Yet there are companies whose industries are by nature difficult to conduct CSR with. Example of these companies that produce industrial components that do not concern consumers. Examples of these indsutries are high-grade chemicals, indsutrial steel, tobacco, liquor, mining, and more. What if aside from existing good labor practices, they wanted to benefit society competitively?

In reality, sometimes the most ethical or socially beneficial things that companies may do is to simply stop existing. There are just some business that may be legal and profitable but are damaging society.

Another thing that most companies can do is to simply outsource their CSR. I know this sounds like dole outs and merely dumping money on charity. But there are times that I think it is far better than initiating CSR activities in which companies do not have expertise in.

The famous example of tree-plating activities have often wasted land use and seeds because these companies do not bother doing research on the kinds of trees that can adapt to the terrain and the seeds’ effect on the soil. Similarly there are CSR activities totally not related with company’s industry whose budgets and other resources such as time and money often go to waste.

Meanwhile, there are hundreds of NGOs out there who have excellent programs but zero funding. They have the competency to reach out to society but not the resources. It is my opinion that, to bridge the gap, some companies should merely provide financial support to these NGOs instead of undertaking their own.

Even though financing a charity is not good for publicity compared to well-publicized CSR activities that do not make lasting impact, society can benefit more by taking a cooler and more rational approach.

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Will I work for a company without CSR initiatives?

This is a weekly academic blog for my MBA class Lasallian Business Leadership, Ethics, and Corporate Social Responsibility.

As mentioned in my previous blogs, majority of my generation now prefer to work for companies with a publicized CSR initiative. It used to be a difficult choice, but now many more companies are incorporating CSR activities as part of their business practices.

Currently, I work for the CSR-arm of a company. Previously, I worked for an NGO. Ever since I was young, I wanted to work for the development sector. I was influenced by reading the life of saints though I am by no means religious. I liked the idea of having a mission that benefits the greater good.

Another reason is that my parents more or less work for the public. Mom and Dad initially worked as educators at a private school. Dad went on to be a lawyer and Mom rose in rank and is now a PhD student and a principal at a big school in my hometown. Both of their jobs are not corporate in nature but involved interaction with people from all walks of life. This is why I do not measure my success in terms of the company I am associated with or the pay I receive. Teachers’ pays are not very big yet they have massive influence over the next generation.

In class, we were asked a question once, “Who among you are willing to trade a higher paying salary for a job that benefits society?” Nobody raised their hands. But if I had not been too timid, I would have. Before working for the NGO, I was offered a government job that paid more than PHP 10K than what the NGO offered me. The NGO was also farther from home and smaller in size, while the government work was only 1 ride away from home and is way larger in terms of size.

Yet I chose the smaller, farther, lower-paying NGO because I was needed there more. So the question remains, will I work for a company without CSR initiatives?

I probably would, but not for long. Aside from my early desires to work for the development sector, I have been highly influenced by my college education in UP, whose tagline is, “Serve the People”. Even though I try to work at jobs with high pay and high position, there’s an inherent need for me to give back to society.

It’s important to note, however, that not all development sector organizations and companies are good. It is ironic that even though an NGO can perform well for their beneficiaries, they may sometimes be unprogressive towards their labor practices, which is why I wrote my first blog, The Vocation of NGOs.

Between an NGO with poor labor practices and a company with good policies (e.g. going paperless) but no CSR initiatives, I would choose the latter. CSR and development are not just industry or method you choose. It is an ideology you practice.

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Retelling the Story of Stuff

This is a weekly academic blog for my MBA class Lasallian Business Leadership, Ethics, and Corporate Social Responsibility.

One of the most eye-opening video I watched in my life is The Story of Stuff  recommended by my then-Sociology professor.

The Story of Stuff was a 20-minute animated clip by Annie Leonard. She was an ordinary person with a sudden environmental awakening that she commissioned the mini-movie’s creation in 2007. Even in the early popularity days of social media, the clip soon became viral.

The Story of Stuff was about the materials economy composed of processes such as extraction, production, distribution, consumption, and disposal. Each of these processes are open to abuse.

In the Philippines, extraction became a popular issue after the closure of mines and scrapping of mining contracts by Sec. Gina Lopez, declaring that the Philippines is not fit for mining. Her goal was “to heal the land”.

As someone who climbs the mountains, I have seen the damage done by mining and logging even in nearby provinces such as Rizal. We would sometimes see an entire half of a hill baldened by these activities. Aside from environmental and aesthetic purposes, these makes the province prone to landslides and flash floods.

Production in the Philippines is smaller compared to more industrialized countries. But another form of abuse is labor practices and working environments that are not safe during production. An example of this is the Kentex Factory fire. Almost 80 factory workers died because of being surrounded by highly flammable materials, poor ventilation, and overcrowdedness.

Since the Philippines is also not industrialized enough for production, we are mainly only a small part. Greater economies and even business can afford to take our resources, use our manpower for their production, and then redistribute the products we made so that it returns to us more expensively.

Yet ironically, the Philippines is also known for being massive consumers. The existence of sprawling malls, being the market of luxury brands and the latest technologies combined with our high expenditure and low income-savings quotient make us, a Third World country, the ultimate consumers.

Finally, after the process is completed, we find out that from the very beginning, most products are destined to go to landfills. That includes the sources we extracted and even the chemicals and artifical elements we used for production. In a linear economy, everything goes straight to the trash.

Because some of the biggest international businesses are more power than majority of lower-income country governments, we see the role that businesses play to reverse this. Watching The Story of Stuff made me feel powerless at a certain point, because I know that simple actions such as boycotting from a sole consumer will not make changes. I think we can make better changes if we make more business leaders take repsonsibility thru education, policies, and dialogue.

I hope that my generation, with hyper-awareness of foreign affairs thru social media, will be the ones to make a change as we assume roles in the government and in businesses.

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The Invisible Students

This is a weekly academic blog for my MBA class Lasallian Business Leadership, Ethics, and Corporate Social Responsibility.


Coming from UP, our primary battle-cry is that of the right to education. But as the years progress, being called iskolar ng bayan is somehow slowly losing its meaning. The truth is, much of our tuition fees are no longer government subsidized.

In 2007, a year before I enrolled to UP, there has been a 300% tuition fee increase. The default bracketing system of new students is also raised higher that, in a sense, you will have to prove just how poor you are before you can avail of cheaper tuition fee. In fact, to belong to the lowest bracket (Bracket E), you will have to prove that you’re so poor, you cannot even afford to buy a cell phone. That’s a very unrealistic standard as even the poorest urban slum dwellers have a cell phone.

As such, I came to UP with a much higher tuition fee than batches ahead of me. They now call batches 2007 onwards as “the rich kids”. During my college years, they also changed the standards so that new enrollees now belong to Bracket A by default, in which they will have to prove they qualify to lower brackets just to pay a lower tuition fee.

These changes in government subsidy caused a change in the demographics of UP students — and it’s not because there are more privileged students that pass the UP College Admission Test (UPCAT). It’s only because much of our underprivileged counterparts pass the UPCAT but choose not to enroll primarily because of the higher tuition fees and the hoops they have to go through just to fulfill the requirements.

My blog post four years ago was about the Kristel Tejada, a college freshman and the eldest daughter of a taxi driver from Tondo who committed suicide because she was unable to pay her tuition fees. While there were students who commit suicide because they have failing grades, Kristel committed suicide just because her family did not have the financial means to send her to school. This was unacceptable, considering she was considered worthy of a state university education.

This brings us into a question: Is education still a right or has it now become a privilege?

The thing about privilege is that we do not know when we have it. When I was in college, I took for granted that my parents will pay for my tuition and my school requirements. I expected and received weekly allowances. I knew with certainty that I will finish in four years without stopping unless I failed a subject. It’s only now that I had to finance my own graduate school education that I realized how lucky I was.

Meanwhile, my other counterparts cannot even finish an undergraduate degree because they did not have parents like mine. Most important of all, the only reason why I can afford to pay for graduate school now is that (1) I was able to finish college, and therefore (2) I was able to get a good-paying job. The reality is, other people can’t even get past Step 1!

Back in college, I had friends that belonged to Bracket E. But frankly, I never noticed that a lot of my fellow students drop out in the middle of the term because their parents can no longer afford to send them to school. I never knew that a lot of my classmates choose to work part-time or stop for a while just to make ends meet. Worse of all, I never noticed that the underprivileged are being removed from the landscape because they don’t even make it past enrollment day!

It would have been acceptable if we studied in a private school. But it seemed like a crime knowing that we are at a state university where the government is mandated to provide for these deserving students.

What I enjoyed most about my UP education is academic freedom. Here, it did not matter what I wore, if I drove a car, what I look like, if my professors like me, or even if I get high grades. All that matters is engaging intellectually within and outside of class. Sadly, a lot of deserving students cannot even enjoy academic freedom as it comes with a financial burden. These students are so focused on merely surviving through the semester and worrying if they will have enough money for the next. They learn early on that even though they are just as qualified, they will have a harder time finishing school just because they happen to be poor.

The problem with losing sight of the underprivileged simply because they cannot make it to school is that we no longer see the people we should look out for. The more underprivileged students drop out or pass up enrolling, the more privileged students think that the right to education is being fulfilled. It breeds apathy and a lack of awareness, which to me, beats the purpose of our education.

We may be knowledgeable within the walls of the classroom, but greater education is being aware of what happens outside of it and what we should do about it. Otherwise, all that higher education will only become a means for us to perpetuate the system of accumulating wealth just so our children will not suffer the same fate as the invisible students who cannot make it to class.

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Millennials and the Future of CSR

This is a weekly academic blog for my MBA class Lasallian Business Leadership, Ethics, and Corporate Social Responsibility.

Millennials have been getting a bad rap for being self-entitled “kidults”. But reluctant adults as we may seem, based on the recent Horizon Media‘s Finger on the Pulse Study (2017), we might actually change the world.

The new generation grew up during the rise of self-esteem messaging. We grew up insanely idealistic, slightly self-entitled, and socially hyper-aware. Often, we’ve been called as temperamental brats and narcissists. We are also digital natives who have witnessed the rapid advancement of technology and interconnectivity. As such, lonesome as we may look with our palms stuck on our smartphones, we actually belong to a digital tribe. Add that to the quicker spread of information that immersed us to as many advocacies as you can think!

As we now occupy the labor force and the market, businesses and nonprofits have leveraged the millennial culture to sell their own businesses and nonprofits. Advocacy and brand messaging now seemed to be interchangeable.


The Way Millennials Buy

In the era of superheroes, millennials seem to aspire to save the world, one shopping bag at a time.

This is evidenced by successful marketing via injecting social relevance into the most commonplace products and services. Even the most commercial brands have learned to incorporate words such as organic, natural, biodegradable, eco-friendly, reusable, healthy, and local to their products and services.

CAUSE + Sumption has become a way of life, in which millennials purchase from businesses with the same values that they espouse. And it’s not just about businesses having a three-month long campaign. Millennials are looking for the real thing! We are known to make well-researched purchases. The Intelligence Group’s Cassandra Report says that 72% of millennials research online before making an in-store purchase.

What’s more is that we also bother to check if these businesses are actually doing something for the greater good. A whopping 81% of our generation (Horizon Media, 2017) expect businesses to make a public commitment to good corporate citizenship. These activities may involve donating to charity, paying their employees right, or reducing their carbon footprint.

A successful example of this is Tom’s footwear’s giving back model, wherein purchasing one pair of Tom’s will purchase another pair for the underprivileged. Cafes doing a suspended coffee campaigns have also gone viral. This is where customers can buy two cups of coffee — one for them, and another for the next homeless man who walks in. There have been boycott movements for businesses running sweatshops, such as Gap, Nike, and Liz Claiborne. Locally, at the height of the friction with China, patriotic consumers are encouraging the masses not to buy goods made in China.

In short, millennials don’t just purchase products out of need. Our purchases are a badge that seem to reflect who we are, or what kind of citizens we aspire to be.


The Way Millennials Work

It’s even more surprising to find out that what’s in our heart is in our pockets.

Millennials grew up at the time when the triple bottom line has become the standard to measure corporate success. Sustainability reporting via the Global Reporting Initiative, as well as alignment with UN Millennium Development Goals, have also been adopted by more companies by the time we entered the labor force. As such, we have become more aware and therefore choosier when it comes to the companies we dedicate our productive times with.

Unheard of in the previous generations, millennials are even willing to go as far as getting a pay cut just to work for socially-relevant companies. The 2015 Cone Communications study showed that millennials are more willing to work for truly good businesses even if it meant having a lower salary. The gap between this worldview of millennials and the older generations combined are huge. It really is a mark of a generational change.

2014 Nielsen study says that 70% of millennials preferred employers who are committed to the community. This makes it a challenge for employers to keep their millennial workforce engaged by genuinely contributing to society via corporate social responsibility. It’s no longer just about having pool tables, company outings, and flexible hours as employee benefits. They now must answer the question everly millennial asks themselves, “What can I do for society while being at work? (a classic example of Work-Life Integration)” This has made employee volunteering time-off and matching employee contributions a great way for the company to make the ever-mobile millennials stay.

Some of us even go as far as designing our business around the development sector and corporate social responsibility. As an example, local startups are first to incorporate socially-relevant causes to their new businesses. Not a surprise, as most of these are run by millennials anyway. For example, Cropital is a site that allows micro-lending to local farmers. Another startup, Storm Benefits provide a means for employees to choose their own company benefits such as travel, wellness, and fitness product and services discounts.

These new studies on millennials and CSR all the more make corporate social responsibility initiatives a win-win. While companies can help society thru their ethical business practices as well as socially-beneficial products and services, they can keep their younger workforce engaged, and even attract more consumers to purchase from their brands.

As a millennial myself, I can’t wait to see our generation grow up and see what we can do for the future. If we are already ethical as consumers, employees, and citizens, we might actually fulfill our idealistic dreams of making the world a better place.